Dating 101…..Class is in Session

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Let’s be real most of us don’t know how to date. It’s not like there’s a Dating 101 class we can take. You know how it goes. We go to the movies, and maybe out to eat, and by the time you get dropped off y’all are already a couple. Nobody really even knows each other, but at least your not by yourself. Then the day comes when you start thinking, I’d rather be by myself.

I, myself have held conversations with women who believe if a date cost too much the man must want something. They almost feel obligated to give him something. It’s obvious they don’t know how to date. Personally I would give them two things an Thank You, and if that’s not enough a I’ll holla. Any real man should know that a date is just that.

Dating 101

Dating these day, for too many of use has 1 or 2 objectives; you’re either looking for a life partner or a sex partner. Think about the first date for most people. It’s either Netflix and chill, the movies, or a club. That’s the kind of dates that get you in a bed, or a situationship. Very few choose dates where you can interact with, or get to know each other.

You have to first understand the purpose of dating. It is the process of getting to know someone, even if it’s yourself. Some people use it as a way to get free meals or trips, but that’s not exactly what I mean. And for those who have never done it, yes you can DATE yourselves. Dating is also the tool you use to filter out who’s good for you, and who isn’t; but again not many of us use it that way either.

When you’re dating you should introduce them to what you like, be willing to learn what they like, or experience something new together. It should be something where y’all could interact, and leave knowing more about each other. Yes you should laugh, play, clown, enjoy, but more importantly get to know who you’re with. It’s complicated, but it’s simple.

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Julian R. Lark is a distinguished entrepreneur and award-winning stylist, sought after for his take on classic glamour. Having over a decade of experience coupled with a degree in Fashion, Lark has made himself an integral part in creating breathtaking moments for countless Hollywood celebrities. As a tastemaker in fashion, he has launched an online boutique and showroom in Atlanta to make breathtaking moments accessible to his growing audience. Julian forged his own path by creating the nationally published Kontrol Magazine as Editor-in-chief and lead stylist. He has crafted memorable moments for Hollywood icons like Anita Baker, Lynn Whitefield, Toni Braxton and Lil’ Kim. He’s been called upon to work on projects for numerous studios and networks including FX, Netflix, Bravo, OWN, WeTV and VH1. Press features of his work include Huffington Post, People, US Weekly, E! News, The View, and The Wendy Williams Show. In addition to his work as a stylist, in 2014 Julian launched his first stylist class, which is designed to help aspiring stylist learn how to build a successful career in the industry. Continuing to leverage his audience he has launched his own cosmetics line, and agency for stylist. Julian has proven himself to be a creative visionary and industry zealot. His drive, coupled with his uncanny ability to empower through fashion and style will undoubtedly ensure constant growth, both personally and professionally, in fashion and beyond.