“Girl, yeah we got back together but I promise you he’s different now!”
Have you ever been on the receiving end of these words? Have you been the person uttering these words? I know I have! I’ve been there for someone who was saying these words to me and I have been the one saying them. It’s so disheartening of how many amazing women step back into a bad situation out of insecurities and fears of being alone. Many times women sell themselves short for a situation that is probably best left alone.
People will only treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you give him the impression that no matter how much you dog me, I will continue to allow you to be a part of my life, then you better believe that he is going to take that and run with it. Think back to the reason why you guys stopped being together initially. Was it something toxic that continued to eat away at your being? If so then it was probably a better idea to keep him away.
Now I am not saying that all break ups are a lost cause. Sometimes distance does make the heart grow fonder and when the two of you reconvene and take another shot at the relationship it can be beautiful. However, my granny shared very wise words with me when I was younger that in my more mature years I have started to understand. She said “Once you take a sh*t, don’t step back in it.” What I understand this to mean is that when you relieve yourself from a toxic waste situation, there is no need to put yourself back through it again.