What happens when you’ve been married for a number of years, your kids are grown enough to realize you deserve a second chance at love, and everything on that front seems to be in order?
However, there are other family members you are responsible for and who just might get in the way of your happiness.
Can You Guess Yet Who They Are?
That’s right, we’re talking about aging parents and their need for care at this stage in their lives. What do you do? Actually, what can you do? You can’t very well put them in an old folks’ home and forget they are there! They didn’t shut you in a room at your unruliest stages of life and now it’s your turn to offer a little love and compassion. If you fear caring for senior parents may get in the way of that new romance, here are some tips to help you cope.
Locate an Expert in Social Work with Seniors
Actually, there are professionals in your area who deal with this kind of issue day after day. Whether they got their degree on campus or earned an online masters in social work, these geriatric social workers have been trained in helping family members cope, as well as offering services directly to seniors. You would be surprised at just how many people out there are responsible for elderly parents who rely on them for care, but are once again ‘on the market’ for the comfort of a new relationship. The kids may be understanding at this point in your life, but not so much your parents!
Bear in Mind They Are Afraid
Those who have built careers on social work with seniors will be the first to tell you that your parents are probably just afraid of being left alone and helpless. When they say seniors are in their second childhood, it is by no stretch of the imagination! Little children often feel helpless simply because they are little and unable to care for themselves, and believe it or not, that cranky old lady is feeling exactly the same thing.
Understanding Is Only the Beginning
Unfortunately, understanding what they are feeling doesn’t help you achieve the freedom you need to start that new relationship. That is why you really need to seek out someone with experience helping seniors as a social worker – seniors and their adult children, that is! It would be pointless to offer solutions at this point, not knowing your living situation or the state of your finances. From day centers for seniors to home health workers to ‘sit’ in your absence, a social worker can help you find the services you need.
The solution may not be easy, but it will be best suited to your needs and the needs of your family. Seek a counselor with a social work degree specializing in seniors and get the best help tailored to your particular situation. Just be aware of the fact that help is out there, so all is not lost.