Let me start off by saying I absolutely love your site and your advice column. You really keep it real with your readers! So here’s my situation. My soon to be ex-wife who likes to cause arguments in front of our daughter tried to sabotage a daddy-daughter day. I was suppose to take her to a princess party where the host asked that the girls come dressed as their favorite Disney Princess. My daughter is more into superheroes, but we agreed she would go as Moana. When her mother drops her off she is dressed as Thor from The Avengers–with the hammer and all!
My ex begins to say that she should be allowed wear this costume because she did not like Moana’s princess dress and because Disney now owns Marvel Studios and the current Thor is female and since he was the Prince of Asgard that now makes her a princess. We immediately got into it and I made my daughter change and sent her back home with her mother. I explained to my ex she was supporting insubordination and I didn’t want my daughter being a spectacle at the party. Girls can be mean really mean. Now, my daughter won’t talk to me or return my calls and when she comes over she just stays in her room. This is going on three weeks now and it hurts. Mikey, please help. What should I do?
-It’s Her Fault
***It’s Her Fault, you chose the wrong pen name! It is actually both of your faults! This is a child going to a costume theme party and you both overreacted and dealt with her attire inappropriately! Your ex did the most in explaining the whole Thor thing and not discussing options with you, and you accused your daughter of insubordination when honestly you should have found a way to compromise. It is 2017 and the world is chalked full of super-heroic princesses–Wonder Woman, Xena, Merida, any of The Sailor Senshi, etc. As a parent you set the example and bar for how to react appropriately. You need to go to your daughter and apologize wholeheartedly and quickly for making her feel like her interests aren’t good enough and squabbling with her equally immature mother about it. As for you and your ex–the word and action is CO-PARENTING!
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Written By: Michael “Hey Mikey” Fanning