“…I’m a hopeless romantic. At least this time, I don’t have the drama around it.” ~ Terius Nash
Yesterday (Feb. 18), hit-maker to songs like “Single Ladies” and “Umbrella” producer The-Dream made a visit to “The Breakfast Club.” To no surprise, Charlamange Tha God wasted no time asking those “Wendy Williams” type questions leaving no stone un-turned. And the shade towards his ex-wife Christina Milian seemed as real as breathing to the radio co-host.
In the interview, The Dream revealed the importance of publishing rights, his take on the Beyonce and Beck Grammy controversy, Lil Wayne calling him about Christina Milian and more.
What’s really interesting about his words was that he gave an account of his love life from a male’s perspective that can resonate easily with the fellas — single or married.
Check out some highlights below from the 37-year-old producer:
On meeting his current wife (LaLonne):
We met maybe years ago, like for awhile she would actually remind me that we met at the office of one of my friends, and I had no idea. It was just this random thing. She wasn’t seeking me out and I wasn’t seeking her out. It’s just one of those things. I ended up free, she ended up free and it’s like ‘Hey, you’re cool. I’ve had enough drama!’
On being against settling but “knowing” when the relationship is right:
I don’t think it’s a particular time. I guess it’s a feeling that kind of just comes over you of wanting to or seeing yourself with this particular person, the way that you are though, over the rest of your life. It’s just at that particular moment that you feel that way.
Unfortunately for a lot of people, especially today, when two people are growing, somebody can grow left and somebody can grow right. And it’s hard to maintain that particular moment that you were in. Even if it’s for two months or for four months and I kind of talk to people now just about maintaining exactly who you are. If that’s not you- Don’t go down the aisle and, moreso for women, don’t just say yes because your girl is looking at you and you wanna get married because your girl got married, you’re tired of being alone for Valentine’s Day and there is a guy standing in front of you with a ring. You don’t have to feel like you have to say yes just for the moment. You can say ‘You know what? I’m not ready? I’m not ready a lot of reasons.’
On the differentiation between each of his three marriages:
Yeah, you know I’m a hopeless romantic. At least this time I don’t have the drama around it. It’s cool.
Angela Yee: What makes it right this time?
It’s the non-drama kind. I don’t call you to see where you at. It’s that stuff. Y’all know what I’m talking about. It’s that uneasy thing, especially in this business; I need to be creative and do my thing. I don’t have that time for the nonsense.
Charlamagne: Is it because she’s not in the industry?
That has a lot to do with it I think, yeah. Definitely.
I’m always ready to settle down. I’m built a certain type of way and y’all got me pegged all wrong but it’s all good.
On cheating not being the reason for his divorce to Milian:
With Christina, it had more to do with a family thing than it had to do with me and her. So when, you have your combed out section of just you and the other person, you’re good. And usually it is good when it ‘s like that. And then when you add like four other personalities in it is, it turns into something else. So if the other person don’t know [how] to shield that off and they let it in, then usually you have a problem. I think most marriages end that way.
Charlamagne: When do you know the marriage is over?
Dream: When you’re not happy anymore.
Angela Yee: You don’t think people go through periods of unhappiness that they go through sometimes?
Dream:It’s not like you’re not trying to work through whatever it is. But it’s some stuff, you can use logic and common sense to come to a conclusion, you don’t supposed to-
Angela: They say all people cheat-
Dream:People do cheat all the time but cheating wasn’t the reason [for me and Christina Milian’s divorce].
On how Lil’ Wayne conversed with him about dating Milian:
We had one conversation. We don’t have conversations about having the same taste.
I didn’t say ‘why’ anything. I don’t ask people why they do [certain things]- everybody is grown. Do whatever you want to do. I don’t laugh about it. It just, is what it is. He put in a phone call to me. Just being a gentleman.
I wouldn’t do that to him [but] we’re two different personalities.
On what makes publishing different from fees:
I never really been in the fee business. I’ve been in the publishing business. Fees it’s like a ’90s type of thing where everybody is charging these ridiculous fees for one track at a time and I rather just get six or seven songs on an album because the publishing that equates over that amount exceeds the amount that you would get for a fee. You can kind of multiply it by 12 or 13.
Charlamange: You gave Christina Milian a piece of publishing… why not give her a fee? Because that publishing never stops, right?
Right, that’s why I gave it to her.
Does that slow down your child support payments?
You want your exes happy. Just let them go and be happy with whoever they gone be with.
Now The Dream did cover much more during the interview including baby momma fees, the state of R&B music and why voting is important for those a part of the Grammy board. Hey, if you want Beyonce to win Album or Record Of The Year, it can’t happen if you don’t vote.
Check out more from the interview below: