40 First Dates: Dating Advice for the Post-Honeymoon Stage

So, the title is a little misleading. I don’t literally mean 40 first dates with different women. I mean dating your special someone as if every time was the first time. It’s like the saying says, “When you finally let someone have you, they stop doing what it took to get you.” It’s so important to treat every day like it’s the first day you both met each other in my eyes. That will help for a long, prosperous relationship. I’ve got a few suggestions I think will help you continue to prove to your special someone that their presence is appreciated and desired.

Write Love Letters.


Remember the feel-good stage of when you first met someone you liked in 7th grade? I think just about the next day you found yourself writing a note to them and performing mild origami to make sure nobody else read your words of passion. It’s no different today. We don’t do it anymore, but I promise you it feels just as good. Sweet texts are nice to read, but nothing beats the sentiments of a hand written letter of love.

The Honeymoon Stage.


Never let ‘the honeymoon stage’ die out in your relationship. Make candlelit dinners for each other, run bubble baths, give massages–those are my ideal honeymoon stage must-haves. Find out what it is for you two and be sure to do it at least twice a month and explore new things you both will like. Everyone is always saying relationships seem so much nicer when they’re fresh because of the honeymoon stage, well I’m telling you NEVER to let it die.

Your Favorite Things


It feels good to hear what you liked about us when you first met us. It’s not a bad idea to remind her of those things that made you want to ‘wife her’. It also serves as a little reminder to her of things she wants to keep up with. If you notice she doesn’t dress as sexy as she used to when you both got together, there’s nothing wrong with saying, “baby, the way you dressed left me speechless that night I met you” or any other way you can imply that you’d like her to dress sexy again. Buying her the clothes you want to see her in is a good idea as well.

Go On Dates.


This is a MUST. Before you both even decided on being a couple, I’m sure you guys were spending time with each other be it at the amusement park, the movies, dinner, shooting pool–whatever it was that you guys were doing in the getting to know you stage–keep doing those things. That way when someone asks your special someone if he/she wants to go out, they won’t even think twice about saying no because they know they’re going on dates with you. Sometimes couples are guilty of getting too comfortable and forgetting about things as simple as going out together.

Take Pictures.


Be proud of your partner. I know most guys aren’t crazy about taking photos for Instagram, but most girls love it. I promise. Nothing makes her happier than to write some mushy quote underneath a photo of you two just to remind all the guys that are getting at her and all the girls that want you, that your hers. Give her that little satisfaction because I’m sure there is something that you’ll want her to do that she isn’t too thrilled about either. You should want to make sacrifices for one another.

Have Great Sex.


Yep, I said it. You know you can always count on me to keep it all the way honest with you. If the sex life dies down for either of you, I can almost guarantee you that issues will arise soon after. Keep things exhilarating in the bedroom. Do the research, buy books, go to Spencers, ask each other what you’re wanting these days sexually. A healthy sex life is very important. I’m not going to go into detail because it isn’t necessary and we all have different likings, but find out what it is that gets them going (take note, that it could be completely different than what he/she wanted in the beginning of your relationship) but whatever it is, do your best to deliver.

These are just a few things I could think of off the bat, but you know what it was about him or her when you first met. Re-enact that day time and time again because in order to keep them you should treat them like you don’t even have them yet.

From me to you.



Isis Nezbeth

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