They were the love of your life. Your mind continues to replay scenes of the experiences you’ve shared, the places you visited, and the conversations that bared your vulnerable souls. You vow to get them back because it’s still so much love there and you truly believe it’s not the end. We’ve all been there!
Unfortunately, sometimes you have to know when to hold em and know when to fold em. It’s hard when your mind is saying one thing while your heart is whispering another. Here are 5 tell-tale signs that it’s time for you to walk away from your past relationship for good.
They have a new girlfriend/boyfriend.
If your ex goes public with a new relationship, let it go. Don’t appease yourself with claims of them being a “rebound.” Even if that is the case, have enough dignity to walk away. And certainly don’t hustle backwards and become the “side piece.” That’s just a self-esteem abomination.
You can’t get over the last relationship hurdle to even be friends.
You’re trying to move forward and become “just friends” but conversations stay in the past, instead of fixing things in the present. You can’t turn back the hands of the time and your future is anything but bright. More than likely, forgiveness never entered the building or the other party can’t move on with you, they need to move on without you. Respect it and do the same. Remember reason, season lifetime. Not everyone you date is “the one” or meant to be in your life forever.
They curve your calls and visits.
That little red button is hit every time you gather up the nerve to call. Or you listen to their voicemail so much you know it by heart. Better yet, the return of text messages (if you’re lucky enough for a response) is equivalent to sending a handwritten letter through the postal service. And every “let’s meet up” is met with one of the below…
…it’s time to let it go.
They only contact you for sex.
This is specifically for my ladies that truly believe it’s better to sleep with someone from their past than add a new person to their sexual history: LEAVE THAT CONCEPT BEHIND! You are worth more than a few good minutes of pleasure from a person that gave you a lifetime of pain. Once the act is over, is it really worth it? Get a b.o.b. or wait until you find a new partner that’s patient enough to wait until you’re ready to enter a sexual relationship.
You become obsessed with making things work over your own sanity.
When you check your ex social media more than your work email, it’s time for a reevaluation of what’s important, Nancy Drew. If your entire existence is built around what the other person is doing, where they are, who they’re talking to, etc. it’s time to let it go and focus on rebuilding yourself from the inside out. That should be your sole purpose.
Yes, it hurts! And it sucks and it’s unfair. But life is all about living and learning. Think of all your unsuccessful relationships as practice. And all that practice is going to make you perfect for your soul mate.