If you’re only buying your girl flowers when you need to make up for something, you’re doing it wrong. If you buy gifts to get a girl to like you and then stop, you’re really missing the boat. Not only are spontaneous gifts a nice gesture, but they may also be the key to happiness and relationship success. And if that sounds like a tall order for a small gift, read on to find out why.
Here are six reasons why spontaneous gifts in a relationship are a must.
1. Thoughtful gifts show you care
The first and most obvious reason you may want to give your mate a spontaneous gift is to show her that she’s on your mind. It could be something as simple as her favorite flower or a book you think she’ll enjoy. But the gift serves as evidence that she crossed your mind at least once throughout the day.
2. It may be her love language
If you’ve read the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, you probably understand that we all give and receive love in various ways. A love language is the way you communicate your love to someone else. And if your partner feels loved when you give her gifts, those little spontaneous tokens will serve as a solid reminder of your love.
3. Keep the romance going
In the beginning of a relationship, small gestures are easy. We want to impress our partners, so we go above and beyond to show our feelings. But once we land the woman of our dreams, those gestures fall by the wayside. And if you don’t think she notices, you’re wrong. But if you want to keep things feeling fresh like they did in the beginning, keep up with those spontaneous gifts.
4. Your partner will appreciate them
Whether gifts are her love language or not, your partner is likely to appreciate the gesture. And when your partner appreciates you, she’s likely to reciprocate with gestures of her own.
All too often, we fall into relationship ruts where we aren’t doing enough and we expect our partner to take the lead. But if you want more out of your relationship, it’s probably a good idea to initiate the first step. If you want to get more from your partner, start by giving more.
5. They don’t have to cost a lot
You don’t have to spend a lot to show you care. Even something as simple as a thoughtful card from the dollar store can have a major impact on your loved one’s day. In fact, when it comes to spontaneous gifts, it really is the thought that counts.
6. There’s no pressure
If you hate the pressure of gift-giving holidays, you’re not alone. And spontaneous gifts can help take some of that pressure away. Think of it this way. If you never give your partner a gift, and then screw up Valentine’s Day, you’re probably going to be in the dog house. But if you’re in the habit of showing you care every day, there’s not going to be so much pressure on that one day. Just keep your gifts thoughtful and you’ll be fine.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably already resigned yourself to giving gifts only on holidays. But consider these six reasons why you may want to reconsider that stance. Spontaneous gift-giving can save a rocky relationship or strengthen a solid one.
