You may see a happy couple strolling at the park or an old married couple sharing a meal, and ask the question: how did they manage to come that far? What is the secret to a long and lasting relationship? Is there a secret formula to make your relationship work better and have a happy and everlasting union?
The funny thing is that these couples will never tell you that they had it easy because they didn’t! Relationships take hard work. The people who fail to realize this are unable to put in the work that is actually required to make the relationship grow and last. But if you are willing to learn, then here are seven powerful ways to make your relationship work better:
I’ve said it a million times, and I’ll say it a million more: communication is the key to a successful relationship. No matter how cliche it sounds, it’s a valid thought that can’t be undervalued. There is no substitute for two people being able to talk and communicate in a relationship. Growth happens when you and your partner talk about your relationship, address the elephants in the room, and bring the problems to the forefront. If you don’t acknowledge the problems in your relationship, you will never move forward. Instead, you will remain in the same toxic emotional and physically distant spot.
Remember that your partner is not a mind reader. Being able to share the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects of your life without feeling judged or devalued will help you both gain deeper trust and affection for one another.
While this is a simple one, it deserves to be mentioned upfront. A ‘thank you’ can save a relationship. Expressing your appreciation for your partner on a deeper level is always appreciated. Yet, in the daily interactions you share, a small ‘thank you’ let’s each of you know that you are grateful for one another’s actions and supportive of each other’s efforts. Look for every opportunity to show your partner that you are receiving your love’s positive energy and responding appropriately.
Another component of a successful relationship is to make reasonable compromises to find a mutual agreement. There will be plenty of times when you and your partner don’t see eye to eye, which leads to arguments. If your relationship is anything like my old ones, I would refuse to give in and lower my pride. Not so surprisingly, we would eventually break up.
The change in thought must be that it is the two of you against the problem and not the other way around. Don’t let conflict get in between your relationship. Direct your energy into fixing it. Come up with an equal and reasonable compromise so that both of you end up happy. The key is finding the right balance.
Have fun together. Whether it’s the tried-and-true or something new, being playful keeps your love growing. Every time you do something to make your partner smile, it generates chemicals like oxytocin, sometimes called the “cuddle hormone,” in both of your brains, which makes you feel closer. Go out to a movie, try a new adventure or play a challenging game together. Create moments you will remember like your first date nights. It may involve a cocktail or two.
You should give everything you’ve got for your relationship, but if there’s one thing you shouldn’t lose, it’s yourself. Don’t let the relationship take away pieces of who you really are. It’s easy to get carried away by everything especially when you’re in love because you’re very willing to do all the sacrifices to make it work. Make an honest assessment of where you are in your life right now and accept it. It’s the only way you can move to the next level.
At the same time, allow your partner to be their own person. Just because you two are together, it doesn’t mean he or she has to change in order to fit your preferences. Aside from the fact that this can be controlling and suffocating, having this kind of trait will never make both of you grow in your relationship.
Making a relationship work is like making the machine work, all parts, whether small or big, are important and play a role. It isn’t enough that you share with them the big news, you also have to tell them the little and even most mundane stuff about your day. This is to make them feel that you really do care about them enough to share this with them.
Showering your partner with little gifts, staying in touch during the day if you’re apart, and being there for them, no matter what, are just some of the ways you can reinforce your relationship. Simply put: Don’t allow your partner to feel left out of your life. Remember that he or she is your loved one and they should always feel important to your life.
Having a partner you can trust creates a buffer between you and the difficulties of the world. When you have a mate you can rely on, it’s easier to take those risks that help you grow. So be honest with each other about your feelings and needs, and remember that you can tell the truth without being harsh.
Also, be honest with yourself. Once you start thinking with the truth, building the transparency between you and your partner will come easily. Express your thoughts towards subject matters and do your best to embed honesty within every word.
Relationships are no easy work that’s for sure. It’s not all fun and exciting moments all the time, in fact, there are times when it looks like the problems and rains are never going to end. You just have to place trust in your partner that you’re going to get through this no matter what.
It takes two to tango and it also takes two for a relationship to work. If you’re the only one willing to move forward then it’s a no-go. Both sides should agree to put in the effort to achieve your happily ever after!