If you haven’t heard already, turn your radio on… there’s been a huge controversy about Diddy giving the commencement speech for Howard University’s 2014 graduation ceremony. There are some who think it’s great that such a mogul will speak to the graduates, but many students are having very mixed feelings about it and as usual are making sure that all of twitter knows about it. The controversy began with the issue that although Diddy did attend Howard University, he did not graduate and instead dropped out and followed his dreams. Thus, Bad Boy Records was born… and quite frankly, we should all be pretty thankful for that.
Me, personally, I feel that it is completely appropriate for Diddy to deliver the commencement speech. He is obviously a very intelligent being and has had a blatantly successful career since we’ve learned of him practically. Although he dropped out and did not graduate, that does not devalue any words of encouragement and career advice that he could have to offer. I think this is a major problem with the mindset of many of us. I thank God for the opportunity to obtain my Bachelors Degree, however, my entire heart and soul goes into what I love to do–my writing–and not one single book I read in college is the reason behind my passion for writing. I think all too much we depend on the credibility of degree and take very little consideration to how strong and important an impact passion and following your dreams can have on your life.
The relief should grow in all of us that at least these graduates have, indeed, obtained there college degree but that does not guarantee you a job. I mean, let’s face the facts here people. I truly believe that Diddy will be able to offer a perspective that many will not know lives within them and that is a passion, a desire, and the ability to make their dreams come true.
So, how do you know when you’ve found your passion? Well, take it from me when I say, it won’t be jumping up and down waving it’s arms at you. In other words, it’s not a visual thing. It’s a feeling–a great feeling. It will be that one thing that you’re constantly thinking about when you wake up in the morning, when you’re bored, when you’re alone and when you’re in bed at night. Kinda sounds a lot like a crush, huh? Well, yeah–think of it like that. Consider your passion your life’s crush. That’s how I view my passion, writing, of course.
I knew I found my passion in life when I learned that I could:
- look at everything concerning my passion in a positive manner. That means no matter what happens, is said, or is done–you are able to absorb it constructively and humbly. Remember though, people can offer their opinion and you should consider them, but you are NOT obligated to agree with them. If you find that someone doesn’t believe in you, remove them from your presence. SURROUND yourself with people who believe in you, your happiness, and your passion.
- work on it daily–no ‘ifs, ands, or buts’. There’s no beating around the bush with this one. If you can’t see yourself doing it every day… it’s probably not that much of a passion. Better yet, if you feel like you’re working it’s most definitely not a passion.
- passionately do it for free. When I first started writing The Goddess Column, I wasn’t making anything–not one single penny–but I still wrote with the same passion. I still made sure I worked on it diligently. I still made sure that I was just as proud of the what I was creating for free, as I would be if I became a billionaire from it. Besides, what I gained from doing it for free was much greater than any dollar amount and it is because of that and my relationship with God that I never have to worry about what will happen, just when it will…
- believe in myself unconditionally. The support I received behind my passion for writing forced me to take myself seriously as a writer. Finding out that my words were positively affecting thousands of people around the world was the most mind-blowing, satisfactory moment I’ve had. It forced me to believe in my own greatness. No matter what other people saw in my dream, I was then able to see the big picture of what we will become. From that very day, I took myself seriously as a professional Black woman and as a writer and promised myself never to deprive myself of that fact again.
- inspire others. After learning to accept myself and my passion whole-heartedly, God really started moving through me. In such a short amount of time, my words started to spread across thousands of computer screens around the globe at rates I NEVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE (ALL praise and honor to God). Even more than that satisfaction was where my words were reaching and what they were doing for people. I started receiving comments, emails, FB messages, etc. from people I don’t know at all, as well as people I’ve know forever, sharing with me how much inspiration they find in me and in what I do.
I’m not saying that things will play out just as things did with me and my passion, but I am saying that when you do find it… it will feel just like the divine love and joy that I’ve just told you about. It’s a very real thing and I believe Diddy will be able to help another see just that.
Let the man speak. Each one, reach one. Peace and light everyone.