By: Sebastien “@TheGayBestie” Gaudin
Living with a roommate is one thing, but moving in with your boyfriend is a completely different story. Looking back at some of my past roommate situations I’ve learned a lot about those I once called friends. Sadly, two out of the last three roomies I’ve had ended on not the best terms. Although we may not speak anymore I’m grateful to have done it and learned the lessons I now carry with me. Discovering low cleanliness levels, excessive eating habits, lack of respect, and poor choices of those acquaintances proved just because someone’s a decent friend doesn’t mean they make an ideal roommate. Without going too deep into the issues I’ve realized the most important factor is embodying a similar to equal mindset with the other person.
Currently, I’m embarking on shacking up with my beau, which is honestly a little nerve wrecking. I know I’m not perfect, but I don’t think I’m difficult either. Apart of me is torn over the idea of not living alone and doing more self-discovery. As for the other side I’m rejoicing in being with him and seeing his face more. Lord, I pray I don’t get on his last nerve. This is something new for me; and so out of my character. I never really put much thought into living with my boyfriend and now I’m really considering the possibility. I mean me being a workaholic, career driven, independent 25-year-old it’s something you almost shun to the side. What makes the decision a little easier is the fact that it’s him and not just some random guy. We’ve been together for over a year and he’s honestly like the Prince Charming I’ve wished for, but never really expected to show up.
If you’re anything like me then for the most part you’ve gone by the book most of your life. Up until life after college graduation I threw the orthodox thinking to the side. Realizing that 1 + 1 doesn’t always equal 2, I’ve revamped my thinking pattern. For example, it’s so taboo to live with someone before marriage. We’ll lets be honest it’s like our norm nowadays. People are doing it all the time, but I advise to do it with the right mindset. Set goals. Ask every possible question about one another you can think of. I’ve even gone as far to ask him where does he squeeze the paste out of the tube of toothpaste. Judge me if you must, but I need to know. At the end of the day this situation is to either make or break us and I refuse to take it lightly.
Keep in mind some of these tips below!
1.) Be honest with your finances. Money breaks up marriages everyday let alone a living arrangement. Know what you can and cannot afford. This includes really thinking about having a joint bank account or not. Do what works in you favor.
2.) Compromise, compromise, compromise. Not everything can go your way. Try and step outside yourself to see it from the other perspective.
3.) Create a cleaning chart of who does what when. Share the household workload.
4.) Don’t be the parent. You’re the partner and this suppose to be a fun experience too!
As a New Jersey native it came as no surprise when Sebastien, birthed a knack for l talking and writing. During his college days the young blogger gained experience through international talkers such as The Maury Show and The Mo’nique Show. After years of interning and assisting the aspiring journalist threw caution to the wind and launched The Gay Bestie, LLC.
The lifestyle and culture company provides a different spin on love, sex, relationships, and fashion. #TGB focuses on the 21st Century woman and her loyal companion, other known as the gay bestie. Readers will find discussions that are usually held behind closed doors placed in the forefront to totally meet the needs of all. No, topic is ever off limits.
So ladies brace yourselves because Sebastien is taking you places where you’ll be sure to blush and share a laugh! He’s giving exactly what’s been missing. Grab you’re favorite beverage (i.e. red wine), sit back, and prepare to gab about this with your girlfriends the minute you see them.