By: Sebastien “@TheGayBestie” Gaudin
Prejudice – preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.
Preference – a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.
Let’s be honest there are still people who still get prejudice and preference mixed up even today. By no means am I making this a race thing and saying that white women are better than black women, but more so I’m holding the mirror up. Recently, I saw a quote that said, “I am not the cure for black women” that had a black man hugging a white woman.
It’s perfectly okay to have a type or to say, “I prefer white women,” but when its followed by stereotypical connotations it makes the mind wonder as to why.
A few of my girlfriends and I had a conversation recently and we attempted to wrap our minds around the mentality of guys who say those stereotypical comments. Now we’re all educated and open-minded so race wasn’t the bulk of the conversation, but the media and black women were the topic discussed. One said, “I think black women are the demise to ourselves.” She decided to take responsibility for her own actions explaining how she’s had her emotional and difficult ways with men in the past that might have chased them away.
Truth be told European women and those who come across racially ambiguous are favored in American society. We have a way of looking to those who are fare skin to be elite and or superior, which wasn’t always the case, but is now our reality. What does this say to array of darker tones in black society? Bleach your skin?
The importance of self worth truly determines what you allow in your presence and what comes your way. When you embody a certain state of mind there are things that you don’t even notice or entertain. Men who say such things like, “White girls give less problems” are men who have been molded by society who cant think for himself. There comes a point when we all stop following the myths and grown up to learn things for ourselves.
As a New Jersey native it came as no surprise when Sebastien, birthed a knack for talking and writing. During his college days the young blogger gained experience through international talkers such as The Maury Show and The Mo’nique Show. After years of interning and assisting the aspiring journalist threw caution to the wind and launched The Gay Bestie, LLC.
The lifestyle and culture company provides a different spin on love, sex, relationships, and fashion. #TGB focuses on the 21st Century woman and her loyal companion, other known as the gay bestie. Readers will find discussions that are usually held behind closed doors placed in the forefront to totally meet the needs of all. No, topic is ever off limits.
So ladies brace yourselves because Sebastien is taking you places where you’ll be sure to blush and share a laugh! He’s giving exactly what’s been missing. Grab you’re favorite beverage (i.e. red wine), sit back, and prepare to gab about this with your girlfriends the minute you see them.