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Dating Confessions Vol. 4: Trading Places

Dating Confessions Vol. 4: Trading Places

By: Sebastien “The Gay Bestie” Gaudin


You’re probably thinking this is another column where I’m going to provide you with freaky ideas to get your man turned on, and you’re absolutely right!


Following, “Strapping the Saddle” it’s only right that I provide you with a follow up. Taking just a few steps back it’s all about confidence and a smidge of dominance. Yes, you can still be submissive, but it’s nice once in awhile to be the one calling the shots. Admit it. It’s perfectly normal to want to start trading places; especially if you’ve been with the same guy for sometime.


In this entry I’ll break it down in 3 easy steps to leave his jaw on the ground!


Be Aggressive


Take charge and don’t be afraid to. Take him by the hand and lead him exactly where you want him to be. Position him if you have the urge to. This is all about the element of surprise. He isn’t supposed to know what’s coming his way and this is the best way to do it. Blind fold him if you so choose. Take advantage of the moment slowly undress him while talking to him.


Dirty Talk

Yes, say all you’ve been anxious to say. Don’t get out of hand and start talking about bills, make up, or anything that’ll kill the vibe. Tell him how long you’ve been waiting to get him in “this position”. Stroke his ego with how desirable he is. Men adore the stroking of their egos, wont you agree? So do it and make his sexual drive increase. Get into his head with your words to drive him crazy. Make sexually driven noises, such as moans to have him picture what you could possibly be doing. Following that guide his hands on your body. Climb on top of him and let him touch you as you continue to whisper erotic language into his ear. (i.e. I can’t wait to _____ your ______.)


Follow Through


After talking a big game it’s only appropriate to put his ego where your mouth is. It may be taboo for some to discuss their part in oral sex, but as adults we can be honest that most of us have done it or do it. This is not the moment to be shy unless he likes you playing coy. Focus on pleasing him and taking control of his stimulation. Tease him with your pace and captivate him with your moves. Ladies this your chance to call the shots, so don’t “blow” it unless it turns him on!



About The Writer:


As a New Jersey native it came as no surprise when Sebastien, birthed a knack for talking and writing. During his college days the young blogger gained experience through international talkers such as The Maury Show and The Mo’nique Show. After years of interning and assisting the aspiring journalist threw caution to the wind and launched The Gay Bestie, LLC.  

The lifestyle and culture company provides a different spin on love, sex, relationships, and fashion.  #TGB focuses on the 21st Century woman and her loyal companion, other known as the gay bestie. Readers will find discussions that are usually held behind closed doors placed in the forefront to totally meet the needs of all. No, topic is ever off limits.

So ladies brace yourselves because Sebastien is taking you places where you’ll be sure to blush and share a laugh! He’s giving exactly what’s been missing. Grab you’re favorite beverage (i.e. red wine), sit back, and prepare to gab about this with your girlfriends the minute you see them.


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