Hey Mikey- “White Mama, Black Baby”

Hey Mikey,

I am really ready to be a mother, albeit a single one, I am 39 and I’m done waiting for love. I recently signed with an adoption agency and told them I’d be interested in adopting a Black child as well. My parents, although not racist,  are vehemently against it. They keep telling me as a Caucasian woman I am not fitted to raise a Black child alone, especially with the country’s current racial climate. I definitely beg to differ and want to prove to them I can. What are your thoughts? Can a single White female raise a child of color alone to be a successful member of society?

-Mommy To Be

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***Mommy To Be, I commend you for deciding to take your life and circumstances into your own hands and for choosing to adopt. There are a lot of children in the foster care system that need good parents. Yes, I believe a Caucasian woman can raise a child of color alone to be a successful member of society. However, I understand where your parents’ fears are coming from. These are trying times. I would advise you to learn as much as you can about Black culture and ensure somehow your child remains connected to his/her roots–music, hair care, genealogy, etc. Their racial identity may not be the most important aspect of their life, but it will definitely influence it. There are a lot of books on transracial adoptions and if you check your e-mail I’ve already sent you a few titles. Lastly, adopt a Black child because they need a good home and you love them, never to prove others wrong. That will set you on a path to disaster. Good luck future mommy!

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Written By: Michael “Hey Mikey” Fanning

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Hey Mikey!

WHO AM I? That’s probably what you’re thinking? It’s simple I’m this generation’s “Dear Abby!” I was raised in the Fourth Ward of Atlanta, educated in the School of Hard Knocks, and rescued by the concrete and steel of New York City. Life at best will always be bittersweet. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be. I’d prefer to be on your sweeter side. Everyone needs a listening ear, extra shoulder, and open arms when life gets rough. I’m your new best friend, where it all goes south remember I’m a mouse click or tweet away. Hang in there kids, you’re gonna love kickin’ it with me!!! -Michael Jonvier