This is the advice column featured on Kontrol Magazine called “Hey Miss Carter” that answers dating, sex, and relationship questions! I received a question from a guy about his girlfriend holding a grudge from him cheating!
The Cheater: Hey Miss Carter. My girl is trippin’! So about a year ago I did some things that I shouldn’t have. I didn’t have sex or anything like that but I texting other chicks and doing some social media flirting, you knowing sending a heart or kissy face emoji. My girl found out and went off! I begged her to stay but now things just aren’t the same! I need her to get back right! Help!
Miss Carter: First of all I applaud you for writing in about your cheating sir. Most guys would brush it off like an overreaction! Now… What were you thinking?? You may not feel like it was a major betrayal but sir what you have done is broken the trust. Point blank period! Women operate off emotions and feelings and although you may think that she should be over it because it was never physical, giving yourself away emotionally has hurt her even more. There is some other chick that you flirted with, and gave your time to. Think about it. You probably continued on the same social network and which means you could potentially do the same thing! You sir, have some serious work to do! You need to regain her trust and make her feel secure again in this relationship. Yes you apologized and that’s a start but actions speak louder than words! Make her see that you truly are sorry. Something in actions has to change. If you break a mirror and glue it back together, the mirror may be able to be used again but the cracks will still be there.
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Yes trust is so important and once it’s broken it takes a long time to rebuild it. You just have to be willing to take that time. And at the same time the woman has to be willing to work with him. I’d be upset as well if my man did this, but at the end of the day if you still want to be with someone holding a grudge won’t help the relationship.
Sometimes I think men need to start seeing things like this as if the shoe was on the other foot! You would have not agreed not 1% if you found out she did that too you! It’s always a 2 way street & just know once women get over the hurt & the lack of trust they know the game better than you thought!