Space And Opportunity

The other day a girlfriend and I played the game of catch up after a few months of getting our lives together. In the middle of our conversations she mentioned how her and her boyfriend for some time now are back to a long distance relationship. As she’s away in grad school continuing the pursuit of another degree he’s finishing up his bachelors two states away. So this is the kicker he mentioned an opportunity to “do his thing” for a little bit. Yeah, ladies he was hinting at taking a break and seeing other women. I admit as an observer from the sideline their relationship isn’t picture perfect, but what relationship really is; don’t say the Obamas.

Honestly, entertaining other people outside your relationship can be dangerous. It allows too many hands in the pot for a dinner that only serves two. This has nothing to do with insecurities and everything to do with curiosity. Every relationship is supported on two bases, which of course are friendship and communication. Something like this I wouldn’t allow because for one I don’t believe in long distance relationships. We’ve all heard absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I’ll stick with out of sight out of mind. I probably sound like a person who’s never been in love, but I have and simply speaking my perspective.

Being with a person physically [not only sexually] does something to all of us. It fills a void and soothes a vacancy. Entertaining another person introduces another element into the equation that makes things difficult. Relationships are tough enough and adding to the chaos can possibly lead to destruction. I believe if you want it fight for it. No one said relationships were easy and sacrifices have to made along the way. Choosing to be with someone is all about sacrifices all the time. Having a boyfriend now I get that more and more. We both aren’t perfect, but we’ve made a conscious choice to be with one another. So there are times I accept certain things of him and I already know he does the same for me if not more. Most importantly ladies its out of love. Overall, I say be cautious the space in between and the opportunity granted.

Sebastien "@TheGayBestie" Gaudin

As a New Jersey native it came to no surprise when Sebastien birthed a knack for writing. During his college days the young blogger gained experience through international talkers such as The Maury Show and The Mo’nique Show. After years of interning and assisting the aspiring journalist threw caution to the wind and launched The Gay Bestie, LLC. Ladies brace yourselves because Sebastien is taking you places where you’ll be sure to blush and share a laugh! He’s giving exactly what’s been missing. Grab you’re favorite beverage (i.e. red wine), sit back, and prepare to gab about this with your girlfriends the minute you see them.